We always hear about how important it is to live in the moment or “the now”. But we never really listen to people’s advice about how to do it, or why we should do it. We just hear “in the moment”, and we internally roll our eyes at the stupidity of it. We immediately think, “well duh! Of course, we are living in the now”. We can’t live in the future or travel to the past!
We might not be able to physically live anywhere but the present, but our minds can.
Reminding yourself to live in “the now” might seem simplistic and stupid, but it’s actually really important. Do you ever remember a moment from your past and think, “wow, I wish I was there right now”? Do you remember how you acted in that situation? Did you complain? Were you tired? Were you focused or bitching about something completely different? Yeah, this is something that always happens to me. I look back on events, especially ones from my youth and think, “I didn’t enjoy that as much as I should have! I wish I could do it all again!”
It’s sad and annoying, and it really makes me want to focus on the present moment.
But I never do.
Truthfully, I don’t know why. I’ve read ‘The Power Of Now’, and I found it incredibly confusing. And the parts of the book I did understand, I obviously didn’t absorb. So what do I do now? How can I learn to live in the moment?
I still don’t know. But I think that maybe gratitude is the way to stop future thinking, and accept the present. Are you alive? Check. Are you healthy? Check. Are you happy? I’m always emo, but check. Do you have a wonderful family (blood or not) that love and support you? Check. The now seems pretty good to me.
So if you’re struggling to live in the moment, try listing 10 things you’re grateful for right now—this can literally be anything from Krispy Kremes doughnuts, to the ocean! This will bring you back to the present moment, and stop that future thinking.
Hopefully, we can all learn to live more mindfully because regret is a deep, gnawing pain that isn’t easily soothed. There’s enough pain in the world, so I’m trying my hardest to avoid inflicting so much on myself.
Stay bodacious babes.