Do you ever just make lists about all the cool things you want to do? Maybe you want to fix your bed frame, or build a table out of crates (you, of course, saw this on Pinterest) or learn how to play an instrument or pick up a new skill. Do you ever look at these huge lists of “things to do” and panic because of how complicated and time-consuming they are and think, “how the hell am I going to start”?
Sometimes you may even start the project. You may even plan or research exactly what you need in order to complete the task, but in the end, or towards the middle, or maybe even just a little bit after the start, you give up. You become hugely overwhelmed with the task and everything else you want to do, and you end up doing nothing but watching Netflix in your PJs.
Now there’s nothing wrong with Netflix and PJs! I much prefer it over leaving my house and socialising with people, but watching 10 hours of Friends isn’t really a productive use of time, especially when you need to clean out your wardrobe.
Being overwhelmed is normal… and pretty typical if you are older than 20—you know, the whole “adult” thing. We all get stressed at times and fail to function—most of us combat this with obscene amounts of caffeine and sugary snacks. But sometimes they just don’t cut it. Sometimes you need help.
I turned 25 this month, so naturally, I’m going to be overwhelmed for the rest of my life. But I thought I’d put together a little list of the things that often keep me sane (and help me to not cry into a giant bowl of ice-cream on an hourly basis).
- Take a deep breath – It sounds stupid, but sometimes just breathing deeply can soothe your soul, lower your heart rate, and help you focus on what you need to do.
- Perspective – Think about all the things you’re currently kicking ass at, and how someone else would love to be in the position of having so much to do – especially when it’s something along the lines of “I have so many clothes and no space to put them” or “I have so much to do at work because of my new promotion”.
- Mini goals – Make tiny goals for yourself and achieve them daily. “Write a sentence… apply for one job… fix my sock drawer”. This always makes me feel accomplished even though I’ve literally done the bare minimum.
- Talk about it – Sometimes ranting to a friend is really all you need. Once you let out all your worries and frustrations, you’ll feel lighter and able to at least make a dent in whatever it is you need to do.
Hopefully, these tips can be of some help, but if you’re still struggling, don’t beat yourself up about it. If you need to take a day or two to lounge around and be overwhelmed, go for it. We’re only human.