I recently wrote a rather unusual feature on MOSH (the music site I write for) about the things I hope DON’T change in the new year, and it got me thinking about my own resolutions/goals. Now, I’m not about to make a list of unrealistic goals involving the gym and giving up chocolate (it’s never going to happen), but there are some things I’d like to improve on in 2018. First of all, I’d like to continue to work on my own projects in the new year, but unlike 2017, I’d like 2018 to be the year that my motivation skyrockets. I want to make a solid effort to work on my creative projects on a weekly basis. I’d also like to get involved in volunteering and extracurricular activities (like a book club or a yoga class, guitar lessons etc…).
On a personal level, I’d like to continue with the “everyone’s facing their own battle” mentality I adopted after reading ‘The Art Of Happiness’ and not get angry/react to everything that annoys/inconveniences me (especially people).
As much as I loved the “new year, new me” slogan when I was younger, I now know that being new isn’t all that great. I’ve spent many years developing my personality—faults and all—and trying to start over again would be an absolute nightmare. I’d basically have to unlearn all my annoying behaviours and personality traits, and learn different ones! (I can barely learn how to play the guitar!) And to be honest, I like me. Yes, there are things I want to change, but for the most part, I’m pretty stoked on who I am.
So, If you’re one of these people who are trying to become shiny and new in 2018, please remember: you are unique, you are amazing, and if you barely have time to wash your hair during the week (we literally all struggle), then you definitely don’t have time to develop a new personality every 12 months!
A little change is good; a drastic change can be damaging.
And if you need some help with your resolutions….
I recently listened to the ‘Savvy Psychologist’s Quick And Dirty Tips For Better Mental Health’ podcast and learned the 4 ways you can ensure you stick to your resolutions.
- Keep your resolution specific – If you want to get healthy, how many times a week do you want to work out? If you want to eat better, how many vegetables will you eat a day?
- Make it a habit by linking it to another daily habit – If you want to meditate, take a few minutes to monitor your breathing while you’re waiting for your kettle to boil. Automate it!
- Make sure you’re getting something out of it: a reward – Maybe taking a calendar and checking off the days that you go to the gym or meditate is enough reward. Or maybe you just need to give yourself some good, old incentive: I can eat that piece of cake after I do 30 minutes of cardio.
- When you give up (and you will), keep going. It doesn’t have to be perfectly consistent – If you miss a day, or a week, start again. Don’t give up completely.
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Stay bodacious and happy New Year!