I have a problem and, for once, it’s not with my hair, a specific person, or my Wi-Fi connection. My problem is with everyone. (Wow, S. That is so unlike you. We’re all really shocked here.) More specifically, my problem is with the way society tries to dictate what someone my age should be doing.
I’m 23 years old. I don’t drink. I don’t go clubbing or to bars. I don’t have 100 pictures on my Instagram of me hanging out with groups of people on a boat or a train or a private jet (who am I, JLO?). The most you’ll see on my Instagram is a couple hundred selfies—with good lighting and at certain angles—the odd emo quote, and some bad iPhone concert photography. That pretty much sums up my life—though I like to think my offline life is slightly more interesting and full than my online life.
But if we’re going off my Instagram feed, or the fact that I don’t drink or do drugs or hang out with a million people, I’m boring.
Why is that?
Because society likes to trick people into believing that unless they are out partying every night, promoting some weight loss tea on Instagram or hanging out with semi-famous people, they are not living their lives right.
It’s wrong. It’s stupid. And I really just don’t understand why we let ourselves believe this shit.
I like staying at home. And I really like wearing pyjamas—and there are very few places where it is socially acceptable to wear them in public, which is exactly why I love my house.
I also like to chill in my room and watch TV, and make clothes, and write. I also enjoy going to concerts (a little too much. Just ask my bank account). I also like shopping and learning new talents. I also enjoy hanging with my family, and exploring, and singing—even though I’m tone-deaf.
The list goes on and on…
This is about people my age feeling obligated to go out on a Friday night and “have fun” instead of doing what they really want to do (Netflix) because they are told they are boring and need to live better lives.
I’m writing this to say: you are not boring. You do not have to be sociable 24/7 in order to be a fun, interesting person.
But hey, if you like going out, and can rock and roll all night and party every day, then hell yeah! Live it up. You’re killing it! But if like me you’re not big on the whole party scene (unless it’s by All Time Low*) and would rather sit at home on a Friday night and binge watch Riverdale (which I highly recommend, by the way), then cool. You don’t have to go anywhere or do anything you don’t want to do in order to keep up appearances.
* Only emos will get this joke.
Being an interesting person has absolutely nothing to do with how many nights a week you hit the bar. An interesting person is someone who can hold a conversation with someone, or make someone laugh just by authentically being themselves. Interesting is someone who tries new things and sees the world in a different, better way—or at least tries to. An interesting person is someone who enjoys doing a range of things and has hobbies outside of work. Interesting is being vulnerable and real and cutting out all the bullshit small talk. An interesting person is someone who loves themselves and their own interests and is passionate and confident about those things.
Don’t let a social-media-obsessed society try to convince you that you’re not cool or smart or interesting enough just because you don’t know a million people. You don’t have to backpack across Europe in order to be remarkable. Just being you is enough.
Live your life however you want to live it. But don’t let anyone or anything outside of yourself convince you that you are not living your life properly. If you want to make a change, do it. Take action. But remember that the only thing you should be following is the feeling in your gut. Allow that to guide you.